Friday, May 17, 2013
ages ago, on a pregnant whim, i bought us tickets to see bon jovi.
i saw an ad online for the concert that was more than 6 months away, and i knew
that richard wouldn't be dying to see them, but being the good sport that he is he
agreed to go with me anyway. so did our good friends the bowmans. well, i think
that spencer was being a good sport for sara, too, but it ended up all working out.
they introduced us to pho (pronounced "fuh") before the show, which we thoroughly
enjoyed. sara described it as ramen on steroids, and she was absolutely right.
awesome ramen. right up our alley. well, mostly richard's, but i loved it, too.
we parked in a parking lot far, far away from the delta center (because it will always
be the delta center to me), so i made richard run there...
i may have given birth to our son many months ago, but my lungs were still
a burnin' in my chest after that little jog. what a joke.
we made it in plenty of time to wait in a very long line. which was good because i
needed lots of time to catch my breath so i could sing along to some of my fave 80's hits.
finally made it to our seats where we waited for even longer. but that's ok, too,
because we needed as much time as we could get to get an eye-full of all the
amazing mullets that were being sported. by men and women. thank you, 1980's.
mr. bon jovi asked us to put our hands in the air quite a bit, and the
boys were more than happy to oblige.
something else that added to the entertainment was the crowd were surrounded
the girls in front of us were dancing the night away, which attracted some very
touchy-feely new friends. i love the look on her face..."how do we get rid of him?"
and the brokeback cowboys that had an intimate embrace (with their tongues) during
wanted: dead or alive, while one of their wives was sandwiched between them. ha woof.
although the boys left early to bring the cars around (and missed living on a prayer!),
richard was there to belt out it's my life with me. i love this man that will be a fool with
me, even when it's not his cup of tea. we marry our best friends for a reason, right? right.
so, definitely not the best concert i've ever been to.
not even close, actually. paul mccartney, celine, u2, and even kenny loggins
outdid it, without question. but it was a fun night out with friends, dancing like
idiots and singing along to fun old songs. which is definitely up my alley. i mean,
let's face it, that's basically what my alley is made up of.
Posted by Rachel Smith at 8:48 PM
i love that smile.
one of the best parts of being home with my little buddy is that i've gotten to work
on all those little things with him that i felt like i was getting a little cheated out of
when i was working full-time...
like tummy time
and motor skills.
i even got to be there for one of the first big milestones:
yep. he's on the move. so far it's only from tummy-to-back, and mostly only
to the right (unless he's forced to go left by one of us). this happened the first week
i was home with him, and i can't even say how excited i was to have been there.
ending up on his back always shocks him a little, but i'm pretty sure he was
excited that i was there, too. we were also both pretty excited to show
daddy when he got home from work.
Posted by Rachel Smith at 5:33 PM
Monday, May 6, 2013
i really never, not in a million years, thought i'd want to do this. but one
of the biggest lessons i learned the moment martin was born is that you
never ever know how you'll feel about something until you are living it.
whatever that situation may be. i can do a whole post about that, and i think
that i will, but for now i'll just focus on this "ah-ha" moment.
going back to work after maternity leave was tough stuff. there were more
than a few times that i closed the door to my office and cried. richard was
a gem, and he knew how hard i was taking it, so he would text me a picture
of marty almost every day when he would go eat lunch at the daycare (cdc) with him.
that helped a little bit. but clearly not enough. there were also many days that i
left work early to go and pick him up, even if it was just a half-hour before
richard would be there to get him. emotionally, that separation was very hard
for me. it did get a little bit easier as time went on, but not much.
the decision was more than an emotional one, though. the day we went in for
our parent orientation at the cdc richard felt it, too. we were signing papers with
a lady, and she had to leave the room for some reason. when she left, richard said,
"i don't want to leave him here." and we talked about it for a second before she came
back. then we talked about it more and more as the days went on. we both felt that
we wanted to be the ones teaching him things, and being there for all of his firsts: laughing,
rolling over, finding his feet and sucking on them...those are some that have happened
so far. it also came down to the fact that although i loved my job, i'd signed up for a new
job that i loved infinitely more. when i was at work, i felt super distracted. it just seemed
like i was never giving 100% to my job, and i felt like i wasn't being 100% the mom i could
be. so, after being back to work almost a month i gave my notice. i was really nervous
because i'd talked a big game about returning to work, but my supervisor was so nice and
supportive, and i was able to leave on a very good note with all of my co-workers. i felt
nothing but encouragement from all of them, and that meant so much to me.
marty's last day of daycare was thursday, april 4. he had a huge blowout, and another
parent accidentally grabbed his bag of clothes (one of my favorite outfits) that we never
got back, but this is the smile i got from him when i picked him up that day.
so, about the clothes: who cares?
friday, april 5 was a big, big day. marty turned 4 months old and it was my last
official day of work. i only had to go in for a few hours so i took him with me. it
was a hoot showing him off to everyone as i went in to return my keys, sign papers,
and say goodbye.
here we are just before leaving the house for the day:
that afternoon he had his 4-month check-up, and everything looked great.
our boy is healthy and strong, and maybe a little low on the growth charts, but
if he's not right on schedule to become an average morbidly obese american,
i'm ok with that. he did have to get more shots, and i lost it and started crying
with him. the nurse we had was amazing, though, and we mostly just snuggled the
rest of the day. grandma jan even came over for moral support. baby shots, woof.
here we are snuggling and crying together. the crying eventually stopped,
but not the snuggling...
well, only long enough to play a little. we had a lot to celebrate.
and late that night we got to pick richard up from being out of town on tdy.
aside from the shots and tears, it was a very good day.
the decision to quit was my own. i'm so grateful for an amazingly supportive
husband, and that he's such an awesome daddy to our boy. you know on spotlight
questionnaires when it asks you to list your talents? i'm usually embarrassed to list mine
because they consist of volleyball and cooking. not a long list, and i'm not really sure if
those things even count. anyway, i just got to thinking, and this is one of the things that
helped me make the final decision to quit, that being a mother is the most important
thing i'll do in my whole life, and i want to become the best one i possibly can. i want to
be the kind of mom that loves being a mom, and whose kids love having her as their mom.
i have a few really good examples of this around me, and i'm just following their lead.
i feel in my gut that i made the right decision, and i haven't regretted it for even a second.
i don't know that i'll ever list "awesome mom" on a spotlight talent list, but i hope that
someday awesome mothering will become my greatest talent.
Posted by Rachel Smith at 12:17 PM
Saturday, May 4, 2013
well, we finally did it. we blessed the boy on easter sunday, and it was magnificent.
richard gave a really sweet blessing to marty boy, and all of our family was there to see
and be a part of it. it was really, really special, and i was so glad that we could celebrate
our little guy with all of the people we love the most. and who love him the most.
i felt really strongly about not blessing him in all white. when i was looking at the little
blessing outfits i was just bored to death, so riard helped me pick out a very cute little
easter outfit that was very handsome, and perfect for the occasion.
we definitely have a little stud on our hands.
richard's parents drove up on saturday afternoon, austin also came in that night,
and they stayed with us. tyson drove up with scott, megan and their kids early sunday
morning, and heidi met us at the church. the shepherds were there - dayna and dave
left a weekend trip early to make it! - and grandma and grandpa porter were not feeling
well at all, but they still made it (just in the knick of time!). sarah and shae's puppy pooped
in the back of her car on their way up, but not even a poopy mess could stop them from
being there for the big day. our other favorite austin smith (yes, we have two!) also came
to show the love and stand in the circle for mister marty. what a special boy to have the love
of so many amazing people.
i was so nervous that marty would be fussy during the blessing, but he slept right through it!
richard really did such a great job. i already knew that he loved marty so much, but no one
in the chapel could doubt it after hearing what wonderful things he blessed him with. i'm so happy
and lucky to be married to such a stellar husband and father. so happy and lucky.
after church we all headed out to my parents' house for lunch, and to celebrate sarah's
birthday, too. marty was passed around, and we made him laugh for everyone. he was
a big, big hit. naturally. we may have waited a little longer than some to bless him, but it
was worth it to have all of our favorite people there for it. i know that it was a blessing for
marty, but i really just feel like he blesses our lives more than we could ever do for him.
Posted by Rachel Smith at 8:49 PM